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Endings and Beginnings

podcast May 09, 2023

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Episode 46: Endings and Beginnings

 

 

Episode Summary:

Endings and Beginnings

No matter where you are on your parenting journey, the seasons of parenting bring a lot of endings and beginnings. In this episode you get a behind-the-scenes look at how I am navigating high-school graduation and the changes it is bringing to our family. 

Find out what is normal during big transitions in parenting and how you can create the experience you want to have with intention. Learn how the challenges of the teen years are actually an important step in preparing us to let go and the comforting thought that is helping me approach the next chapter with excitement. 

If you want help navigating the ever changing seasons of your parenting journey, I would love to be your coach and support you inside my Enjoy coaching community. Click here to get all the details for how you can join us inside.

 

Parenting is full of endings and beginnings

My oldest is graduating from high school this month and getting ready to head out on a new adventure: first, serving a 2-year mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and then on to college. As I prepare to send my first child out into the world on his own, I am feeling all the feels.  

The Seasons of Parenting

Just like everything in nature, parenting is made up of cycles and seasons. There is the season of babies and then toddlers, school-aged kids, tweens, and teens. Each phase comes with its challenges, but it also comes with a whole host of wonderful benefits too. The trick is to embrace the challenges and enjoy the benefits of each season before it is gone.

The parable of the Palo Verde Tree

Living in the desert, seasons are a little bit different than they were when I was growing up in Utah. Our neighborhood is full of Palo Verde trees.

Each spring they are covered in tiny yellow flowers (which make me sneeze like crazy). Then the flowers fall off the trees to make room for the leaves to grow and fill in throughout the summer. Late in the fall, the Palo Verde tree drops all of its leaves and spends the winter looking barren and dead. 

Right now our family is approaching winter. I can see the evidence that all the leaves are falling off as my baby prepares to leave home. I can already tell that it is going to feel barren and empty without him. 

The ENDING

Our family has always been really close. My oldest is like the glue in our family. He can get along with anyone. Each of the other kids has their own special relationship with him. He is a peacemaker in our home. And we are going to miss that. He has been so patient with us as parents. There are so many things that I wish I could go back and do over knowing what I know now. I have made a million mistakes along the way!

I find myself wondering:

Have I taught him everything he needs to know?

Have I prepared him to navigate this next adventure on his own?

Have I done enough?

It is natural to feel hesitant about change and unsure about what is ahead. It can feel scary to let go and send them out into the world on their own.

Endings make way for new beginnings

But endings make way for new beginnings. We have to let go to make space for something new. While my heart is grieving and sad that he will no longer live under my roof, I am celebrating this next adventure.

It is an exciting time of life! I can’t wait to see him go out and follow his passion. I am excited to see who he becomes. I am excited for him to bring more people into our family to love. 

It is the end of an era. And it’s okay to be sad about it. It is okay to grieve the things that will no longer be. But as we start a new and beautiful season in his life and in mine, I am so excited for that journey that we get to take together.

He will always be mine to love whether he lives 10 feet away or 10,000 miles away.  

The teen years prepare us to let go

The teen years feel so challenging because they are preparing us to let go. It gives us time to transition from being solely responsible for meeting all the needs of our child to slowly but surely turning all of that responsibility over to them. It is a challenging but beautiful and necessary part of our journey. 

A new BEGINNING

As I stand at the end of one adventure and the beginning of another, it is clear: if I want to have any hope of enjoying what is to come, I have to be willing to let go of what IS right now. I have to be willing to let go of the comfortable, safety of the life I know and step into the unknown with hopeful anticipation. 

No matter where you are in your parenting journey, you remember that beginnings and endings are just part of the journey. Take the memories with you as you embrace the beginning of a new season with hope and anticipation. 

If you want help navigating the ever changing seasons of your parenting journey, I would love to be your coach and support you inside my Enjoy coaching community. Click here for all the details for how you can join us inside. 

 

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