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Get Blamed for Everything?

podcast Feb 13, 2024

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Episode 86: Just Blame Me

with Jen Tate 

Episode Summary:

Get Blamed for Everything?

It is pretty common for parents to get blamed for everything that goes wrong in their teen's life - warranted or not. But what if I told you that sometimes, encouraging your teen to blame you might actually be beneficial for them?

Discover when (and why) it makes sense to encourage your teen to let you take the blame. This episode explains why your teen might have a hard time advocating for themselves and how you can make it easier for them to make good choices. 

Explore a few proactive ways you can encourage independence and set your teen up for success navigating challenges on their own. These simple tips will help you build trust with your teen and make sure they know you have their back.  

 

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What you will learn in this episode

Social Rejection is a Teen's Worst Nightmare

Did you know that social rejection is processed in the same part of the brain as physical pain? Understanding this makes total sense why decisions involving their friends are so challenging for our teens. Peer pressure is real, but there are some simple things you can do to make it easier for your teen to get out of sticky situations without the risk of losing friends.

 

Give Your Teen Permission to Blame You

Letting your teen know they can blame you if they ever need to get out of a bad situation can improve communication, prepare them for hard decisions and keep them from staying in places and situations that could be harmful. Learn how to establish clear expectations to keep honesty and integrity at the cener of your support. 

 

Speak in Code

A lot of families use a code word or a certain emoji that their teen can text if they need help getting out of tricky situations. Whether or not you have a family code, you have to establish a culture of safety for your teen to feel comfortable using this tool.

"If my child feels like they are in a situation that is not in their best interest, that is not good for them, I absolutely want them out of that situation."

 

 

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