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You Don't Want a Happy Teenager

podcast Feb 06, 2024

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Episode 85: Your Teenager Shouldn't Be Happy

with Jen Tate

Episode Summary:

You Don't Want a Happy Teenager

Most parents think they want a happy teenager, but your teen will actually be better off if they aren't happy all the time. Overcoming challenges doesn't just help your teen learn and grow, it can also have a positive impact on the quality of your relationship with them.

Your teen won't be happy all the time and the more comfortable you get with that, the better you will be able to help and support them as they navigate the ups and downs of the teen years.

As you support your teen in experiencing the whole spectrum of human emotions, you will build a relationship of trust, connection and love.

Find out which essential skills you need to support your teen in building their emotional resilience and make sure to download the free Processing Emotions Mini-Class.

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What you will learn in this episode

Why The Goal Isn't A Happy Teenager

Accepting that your teen won't be happy all the time takes so much pressure off your teen and yourself. This episode will help you see the benefits of the not-so-happy times so you can embrace them as opportunties for growth and connection. 

"It's hard to watch your child struggle, but it's also an important part of our teen's growth and development."

 

Connection Grows in Adversity

Discover how the challenges your teen faces can bring you closer and build trust and connection between you. If you know how to support your teen in the struggle, you will find a stronger and deeper relationship with your teen on the other side. 

"The more comfortable your teen gets with their uncomfortable emotions, the richer, fuller, more successful, and more enjoyable their life will be."

 

How to Support Your Teen's Healthy Emotional Development

Parents play a crucial role in their teen's healthy emotional development, but most of us never learned how. Your emotions are the stabilizing force that helps your teen regulate their own emotions, so you need to know how to stay calm when your teen isn't. Parents also need to learn how to validate their teen's emotions, listen without trying to fix or teach and guide them to find their own solutions. Learn how you can develop these essential skills. 

"What is better for your child than being happy all the time is having the capacity and the ability to experience any emotion."

 

 

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