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How to Help a Teenager with Low Self-Esteem

podcast Sep 19, 2023

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Episode 65: 4 Characteristics of Confident Teens

with Jen Tate and Leslie Randolph 

Episode Summary:

How to Help A Teenager with Low Self-Esteem

Uncover the characteristics that distinguish confident teens from the rest. Did you know confidence isn't just about genetics? It's a daily choice! ✨

Learn the first 2 characteristics of confident teens from Leslie Randolph, a self-confidence coach for teenage girls, and how YOU can help them develop those characteristics.

Plus discover why confidence is such a struggle for teens and what you can do nurture your teen’s "Bestie Brain." 🧠💖

If you have ever wondered how to help a teen with low self-esteem, this episode is going to shine a light on how much power you have to unlock their teen’s confidence and help them embrace their best self!

Don't forget to check back for part 2 to learn the final two characteristics of confident teens! ✌️

 

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One of the most pervasive issues teenagers face is self-esteem. I recently interviewed Leslie Randolph, a self-confidence coach for teenage girls, to get her insights into the characteristics of confident teens and how we can help our teenagers build their self-confidence.

Confidence is not genetic! 

According to Leslie, confidence is not just something you’re born with – or not.  The truth is, confidence is a choice, an everyday decision. It’s not about reaching a particular goal or changing how you look or act. Confidence comes from knowing who you are, trusting yourself, loving yourself, and believing in your potential. If you want to help a teenager with low self-esteem, you just have to help them develop these important characteristics.

 

1. Confident Teens Know Who They Are

The first characteristic of confident teens is self-awareness. Understanding one’s own voice, instinct, style, and the unique “magic” that makes them different is essential. As parents, our role is to shine a light on their unique qualities and gifts, guiding them in recognizing and embracing their authentic selves. 

We also have to model this behavior ourselves. As our teens see us understanding OUR own unique gifts, voice, style and magic, they are more likely to embrace their own unique goodness. 

Key Takeaway: You can help your teens explore questions like “Who am I? What do I want? What is my style? What is unique about me?”

2. Confident Teens Love Themselves

Self-awareness leads to the second pillar: self-love. 

Acknowledging and celebrating one’s strengths is crucial. In a world bombarded with standards and expectations, it’s so important for teens to focus on their strengths and treat themselves with kindness and compassion.

Teens get to choose the thoughts they have about themselves – whether positive or negative. 

 
 

 

The Bestie Brain vs. The Bully Brain

Every teen (and every adult for that matter) has an internal battle between the bestie brain and the bully brain

The bully brain focuses on shortcomings and failures. The bestie brain celebrates achievements and positive attributes. We have to teach our teens to listen to their bestie brain and quiet the bully brain.

Key Takeaway: Help your teen challenge negative beliefs by affirming their worth regularly. Praise them as often as you can and try to avoid criticizing them. The things you say to and about them will become the voice in their head. Make sure you are turning up the volume on the Bestie Brain!

How to help a teenager with low self-esteem grow their confidence

As parents, our actions speak louder than our words. As we work on improving our own self-awareness and self-love, we can lead by example. We can also point out our teens’ strengths, celebrate their achievements, and provide unconditional love and support. By doing so, we can make add our voice to the chorus of positivity that combats all the negative messages coming at them each day.

Boosting a teenager’s self-esteem requires consistent effort and understanding. As we guide and support them on their journey, we can help our teens become confident individuals ready to face the world’s challenges. 

Make sure you check back for part 2 of this discussion to learn the last two characteristics of confident teens! 

 
 

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