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Give Your Teen More Slack

podcast Jan 16, 2024

This is Going to Be FUN: the Podcast

Episode 82: More Slack

with Jen Tate

Episode Summary:

More Slack

Raising teenagers is a lot like training a dog. It requires patience, understanding, and sometimes giving a little more slack in the leash.

This metaphor, inspired by our 8-week-old puppy, will help you understand the importance of giving your teen space to explore and make mistakes while keeping them safe.

Discover the perfect balance of holding on and letting go and how it will set you and your teen up for more connection and trust now and throughout their lives. 

Want help figuring out that balance with your teen? Check out ENJOY - my community for moms of teens - where I can help you make parenting adjustments in real-time as your teen matures.

 

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What you will learn in this episode

Lessons from Leash Training: give more slack

Just like puppies have to learn how to behave on a leash, our kids also need to learn how to navigate rules and boundaries. It is an ongoing process that changes as they get older and we, as parents, need to know the purpose of the "leash" so we can keep adapting and changing right along with them. 

Finding the Balance Between Freedom and Safety

In this episode we explore the delicate balance between keeping our children safe and letting them learn from their own experiences. We explore the benefits of "cactus" experiences and how they can be essential in helping your teen learn to trust you. 

"Our teenagers need to explore a little bit off the path. They need to check things out for themselves."

The Difference Between Kids and Teens

As we unpack this metaphor you will start to understand the importance of changing your approach as your kids get older. The purpose of rules and boundaries is different for kids than it is for teens and we need to respect and honor that. As we better understand the purpose behind what we are trying to do, it will be easier to approach parenting in a way that is developmentally-appropriate for our kids. 

"The leash is not to control them. The leash is to help them stay safe."

 

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