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Set Your Teen Up for Summer Success

podcast May 23, 2023

This is Going to Be FUN: the Podcast

Episode 47: Set Your Teen Up for Summer Success

 

 

Episode Summary:

Set Your Teen Up for Summer Success

The countdown is on! You only have a few summers left with your teenager and you want to make the most of the time you have!

Want to make this summer unforgettable for both you and your teen? Discover the secret sauce for a perfect balance between fun, relaxation, and a pinch of structure!

These 5 tips will help you set your family up for a fun and memorable summer together so you aren't waiting for school to start back up a few days in!

Make sure you join the ENJOY community to get even more support for the dog days of summer. It is the ultimate summer survival strategy for moms of teens!

 

 

5 Ways to Set Your Teen Up for Summer Success

The countdown is on! You only have a few summers left with your teenager and you want to make the most of the time you have! These tips will help you set your family up for a fun and successful summer together. 

1. Create a vision for your summer

An awesome summer starts with knowing what your teen actually wants their summer to look like. The easiest way to know what they want is to ask them. What do they really want to do this summer? What are they looking forward to? This is going to change every summer as their interests, friends and life changes, so never assume you already know.

You also need to think about what you want the summer to look like. What are the things you really want to do this summer? If you don’t want to look back on the summer with regret, you have to be intentional about thinking through what you want your summer to look like. 

If you want to have a great summer, you need to find ways to integrate the things YOU want with the things YOUR TEEN wants. 

My favorite way to do this is STICKY NOTE PLANNING.

  1. Have every member of your family write down the things they want to do on sticky notes: one item per sticky note. 

2. Create 3 areas where you can put the sticky notes on a wall: for sure, would be fun, meh. 

3. Let each of your kids choose 2 sticky notes and add them to the for sure section. 

4. Then have them sort the rest into would be fun and meh. 

This will give you a great idea of what your kids really care about doing this summer and help you plan a fun summer for everyone.

2. Set Realistic Expectations

No matter how awesome your plan is, not every minute of the summer is going to be amazing. 

Your teen is going to get bored sometimes, and that is ok. Boredom is just an emotion – not a problem they need you to solve. Letting your teen experience “negative” emotions is key to improving their emotional health and allowing them to come up with creative ways to entertain themselves. 

Your teen won’t be excited about everything you have planned. Expect them to complain, at least a little bit. 

Three things that are almost certain to be important to your teen this summer are friends, sleep and fun. This is a normal and important part of your teen’s development. Wanting to sleep in all day or spend every waking minute with their friends doesn’t make them lazy or irresponsible – it makes them a healthy teenager. 

3. Prioritize Your Own Fun

Moms are often the coordinators of summer fun, but make sure you plan in some fun for yourself too. 

Weekly (or even daily, if possible) do something just for the fun of it! It doesn’t have to take a lot of time or effort: you can blast the music in your car or set aside a few minutes to sip your favorite drink by the pool. But make sure you are planning FUN into your summer.  It will make you a nicer mom and a happier person and your whole family will have a better summer as a result. 

4. Think about the Problem Areas

You already know what they are! The stuff that causes all the fights and frustration every.single.summer. Phone/screen time, chores, eating you out of house and home, staying out late every night…it could be so many things. 

Decide in advance how you want to handle these situations. Sure, that might mean setting some rules or guidelines, but more importantly, consider what kind of mom you are going to be when they come up. 

Ask yourself these three questions: 

1. What kind of mom do you want to be? 

2. How do you want to feel? 

3. How do you want to respond?

Having a plan in place for how you are going to handle the problem areas will make everything run a lot smoother when things inevitably go south.

5. Build Pockets of Structure into Your Summer

As much as summer is about freedom, a touch of structure can be a game-changer. Encourage your teen to take up a project, develop a skill or participate in a sport or activity. This gives them something to work toward and look forward to. They will probably resist it a little bit at first, but having SOMETHING to work toward makes a big difference. 

And for those problem areas you identified earlier? A routine might be just what you need. Think through ways to create a little pocket of structure that could prevent the problem. Get your teen to help you brainstorm solutions because they might just have some brilliant ideas! Either way, make sure you communicate your plan clearly so everyone is on the same page. 

I hope these tips will set you up for a really fantastic summer with your teenager. I would also love to invite you to join me inside of the ENJOY community where I can support you all summer long. Even with the best laid plans, you are bound to run into some snags and get frustrated with your teen. Having them around more is great but it also gives you more time to drive each other crazy. 

I would love to be able to support you through all of that through Marco Polo Coaching and all the other resources in the Enjoy community. See you inside! https://client.jenbelltate.com/membership

 

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