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Understanding Teens and Self-Esteem

podcast Sep 26, 2023

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Episode 66: The 4 Characteristics of Confident Teens - Part 2

with Jen Tate and Leslie Randolph

Episode Summary:

Understanding Teens and Self-Esteem

Do you wish your teen was more confident? This conversation with Leslie Randolph (a self-confidence coah for teen girls) will help you discover the 4 essential traits of confident teenagers and how to help your teen develop them!

Every teen is brimming with potential. But how do they start believing in their capabilities, especially when the going gets tough?

Learn practical tips to help you nurture your teen’s confidence daily. Let's tap into the power of seeing strengths, praising efforts, and lovingly guiding our teens to be confident in their amazing selves!

Download Leslie’s Six Simple Steps to Help Your Teen Cultivate Confidence so you can start this transformative journey today!

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Understanding Teens and Self-Esteem

Navigating teens and self-esteem can be a challenge! Last week I shared some insight from Leslie Randolph, a renowned self-confidence coach for teenage girls, to help us understand the characteristics of confident teens and how to help our kids develop them too. Today we are continuing that conversation with the final two characteristics and some simple ways you can start building your teen’s self-esteem.

Confident Teens Know Who They Are and Love Who they Are!

Last week we learned that confident teens have a strong sense of self-esteem. They recognize their strengths, weaknesses, likes, and dislikes, enabling them to navigate the world with a clearer sense of direction. 

And as they know who they are, they learn to love who they are! It’s crucial for teenagers to embrace themselves! Teens and self-esteem aren’t often synonymous, but they can be! 

Mirror Mantras

Leslie recommends having your teen practice morning mirror mantras. They write positive affirmations on sticky notes and put them on their mirror to remind them of their worth.

Doing this at the beginning and end of the day is key to “bookend” your day with positivity and reinforce self-love.

 
 

 

Confident Teens Trust Themselves

Trust lies at the core of self-confidence. Leslie notes that “confidence comes from the Latin word to trust.” It means keeping promises to yourself, making sure your actions align with your values and forgiving yourself when you make mistakes. 

Teens need to learn to treat themselves with kindness and compassion, even when they make mistakes to reinforce this trust. 

Key Takeaway: 

We can help our teens learn to trust themselves, by demonstrating our trust in them. Give them opportunities to make mistakes! And make sure you treat them with kindness and compassion when they do. They will borrow your belief and trust in them until they develop their own.

Confident Teens Believe in Themselves

Teens need to believe in themselves, even when they don’t have any evidence that they should. That is what trying new things is all about! Teens need conviction that they can achieve their dreams and handle the challenges along the way. 

This deep belief in their own abilities acts as the cornerstone to help them overcome failure, rejection, and heartbreak.

Let your teen see themselves through your loving lens. Celebrate their strengths and encourage their journey towards self-belief.

Key Takeaway: 

Let your teen borrow your belief in them until they have enough belief in themselves. Encourage them to try things even if there is a possibility they might fail! Keep building them up and showing them how far they have come. Make sure you tell them all the greatness you see in them! 

Teen Confidence Blueprint

You can start right now to build your teen’s self-confidence! 

Let them see themselves through your eyes. You can so easily see all of their strengths and potential, so make sure you give them a peek into the way you see them. 

Focus on praising their efforts more than you praise their accomplishments. 

Point out your teen’s strengths more frequently than you correct them. Leslie says, “With every correction, double down on showing them their strengths through love.”

Understanding Teens and Self-Esteem

Knowing these 4 characteristics of confident teens can help us start to build our teen’s self-esteem. If our teenagers have any chance at navigating the complexities of life with confidence, we must equip them to face life’s challenges head-on.

You can download Leslie’s Six Simple Steps to Help Your Teen Cultivate Confidence and connect with her at confidencecoachforgirls.com. Remember, by nurturing the characteristics of confident teens, we’re not only guiding them through adolescence but also setting them up for a future of success and 

Did you miss part one? Check it out here!

 

If you liked this post, you should check out:

5 Tips for Raising Confident Teens

How to raise Confident, Resilient and Happy Teens Mini-class

Six Simple Steps to Help Your Teen Cultivate Confidence

 

 

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